The concept of kafa'ah is one of the benchmarks in choosing a marriage partner, both women, and men. Many previous studies have linked kafa'ah with Javanese customs, political parties, or with one of the lodges. From this research, it was found that the kafa'ah taken was still not uprooted from its main value, namely religion. The religious position in the kafa'ah which is obligatory on the husband is the consensus of the 4 schools of thought, apart from race, ethnicity, lineage, and others which are still widely contested. On the one hand, social convenience is a manifestation of deep understanding and its implementation of an individual acquisition resulting from the process of mahdah worship, whether prayer, zakat, Fasting, hajj, and others. So it becomes interesting when kafa'ah here is a religion (diyanah) when it is related to social ideals which in fact can be seen in a concrete and real way, moreover it is a form of mu'amalah ma'annaas. As in general, in fiqh principles, everything is punished dzahir. So that in choosing a husband you can see the extent of his social skills so that later he can foster a sakinah mawadah wa rahmah family.